Edging closer to 40, my hope of making a family has faded more and MORE in time. It was only four years ago I wrote the piece The Men who Made my Thirties a MisConception. Now, I realize I have only myself to blame for being childless. When I wrote that piece in 2019, I was still in a relationship with a former partner who eventually relapsed into bottles of whiskey and vodka. Our relationship ultimately ended when I called 911 on Christmas Eve 2018 and said goodbye to any of our plans to star

Stop Defining and Sexualizing Women by their Anatomy While reading about the trending stories online, I learned Jessica Simpson recently showed off her 100 lb. weight loss on Instagram in a sexy black dress with a plunging neckline. It turns out she was showing off more cleavage than some people can handle, well really one. Being a woman who knows firsthand what it feels like to have big breasts, I couldn’t help but notice a comment that called Simpson’s motherhood into question because of the

Living in Thailand introduced me to the concept of a minor wife and made me think about how I could not be minor in any way. While living in Thailand as an expat, I learned fairly quickly that women significantly outnumber men. A student told me 40% of the population are men and 60% are women. Out of the 40% who are men, the student told me 10% are probably ladyboys. This makes it even more challenging for women to find a husband in Thailand especially when you consider the existence of a mino

When Culture Shock Becomes about Sex and Gender? Hangover introduced me to Soi Cowboy even before I made it to Thailand. A stereotype in Thailand is sex is widely available for purchase. In my first six months living there, I didn’t see it. Then, as I interacted with more male teachers at work, I heard their stories of prostitutes, ladyboys, and being one of many boyfriends. In between classes, I interacted with my desk neighbor quite frequently. One day, the conversation was not about teach

Brazilian jiujitsu is empowering for women. It doesn’t just give us the tools to protect ourselves physically but can also help us build the mental fortitude to recover from sexual assault as well as sexual harassment. I hope Brazilian jiujitsu can help another woman just as it has helped me.